Previous Posts: October 2014

It’s all Serving a Purpose

I was sat on the bus the other day, making my way into town with Nathanael, when amid my “conversation” with a 10 month old I noticed parents across from me not doing the same.
They probably thought me crazy as I babbled to him “What can you see Nate” “ooo that was a big bump” “We are going to the shops” Yes I know completely ridiculous to talk to a baby that can’t talk back … or is it?
You see I am just as wary as other passengers of people talking to themselves, its not the done thing. Yet I want to challenge you like I am challenged with Nathanael on Intentional Parenting.

We can all talk a good talk on how much time we spend with our children, we can talk about how we took them on an amazing vacation the other year they got to see so much. Sounds fantastic but do you know their heart?
What’s their favourite colour? favourite food? what do they want to be when they grow up? If you have children under the age of 10 the answer to these questions will change momentarily as they discover new things.
I fall short so many times, I have sat while feeding Nate and messed around on my phone, I have popped on a YouTube video to break the monotony of a rainy day spent inside, seriously I am not one to throw stones!

What I am saying is those random conversations your having with your 10 month old is serving a purpose, its laying down the foundation so that when your child is older they know they will come to someone who is receptive and will actually listen to what they have to say.

As Christians this truth is one we should continually remember, our children are not our own, they are a gift from God, a joyous, amazing, tiring, exhausting, emotionally draining, beautiful gift. Are we pointing them to Jesus? Are we showing them the path in which to walk?
Again we can talk about it, we can read about it even, they might get something from that, but I can tell you from experience that if you have a parent sold out for God, walking, breathing, living for God their children can’t help but glimpse Him daily through that.
Those bible stories I read Nathanael serve a purpose, those prayers I say over him serve a purpose, my crazy dancing and warbling voice over worship songs serve a purpose.
Are we taking our children by the hand and walking them to Jesus? I say this because one day our hands will fall away from them, Jesus wounded and scarred hands wont and I want to make sure that my parenting has encouraged Nathanael to grasp and take hold of the hand that is reaching out to him.

So if your in the quagmire (seeing some of Nate’s nappies it might be literally) of parenting, exhausted and worn out I just want to encourage you, those random things you do that no one on the bus understands its ok, its serving a purpose.

Nathanael Eleven Month Update

 

Weight: 18lbs 12oz

Length:  No idea, will find this out at his 1year check in.

Eating: Nathanael is continuing to eat his 3 meals a day plus a morning and mid afternoon snack. All that crawling makes for a hungry boy! Also just this past weekend Nathanael decided to give up breastfeeding. So he has officially been weaned! No dreaded horror stories of him clinging off me or screaming all night, he just decided he didn’t want to feed anymore and it couldn’t have gone better in my opinion.

Sleeping:  Nathanael is still sleeping through the night from 7pm till 7am.

Nappies: Still in size 4 nappies.

Clothes: Nathanael is in 9-12 month clothes. the odd jackets we have had in a lower size are pretty snug now and even his 9-12 month trousers are fitting him well.

Things Nate likes to do: This has been a major month for Nate in things he has learnt to do, I know I will forget something’s I am sure but I will try to be as comprehensive as I can. We have a basic shape sorter for Nate to play with and from 6 months all Nate has done is pull the lid off and chuck the contents as far as he can. This month however we witnessed Nate actually picking up the circle and popping it through the lid! He has a little trouble with the square but a few attempts usually does the trick, then he empties the contents of the box and starts again, such a clever boy.
The next thing Nathanael discovered was dancing. He has always loved music from the get go, certain songs would really help calm him down, one morning when I was tidying up I had popped on some worship music and Nate stood up (holding onto the coffee table) and danced aka jumped about looking very impressed with himself! The boy has good taste in music!
Nathanael has been greeting us in the morning with a Hi Ya Ya Ya! and sometimes repeats this on Luke’s return from work, unbelievably cute!
Nate has never been one to drink from a sippy cup independently, in the early days I would pump a bottle or two but I quickly gave that one up so he has never had the natural inclination to grab a bottle. Luke noticed this month that Nate would suck his vitamins from his syringe so we decided to try him with a bottle that has those built in straws. It was a long shot being that they are for 12 month plus but our little Nate at 10 months +2 weeks didn’t think anything to that and now enjoys getting a drink for himself!
Continuing with a food theme don’t mess with Nate and his protein! He has always been a good eater and I think that is down to 2 reasons, firstly he took to baby led weaning really well and secondly he could do that with having quite a few teeth by the time he turned 6 months.
We are starting to see Nate become more independent, in only 4 weeks time he can join out amazing children’s programme at church on a Sunday. So for two months we have taken him in and played with him to get him use to that environment. Over the recent weeks we have took a step back, not been in his eyesight so he gets use to Mummy and Daddy leaving him with other people. I have to say I have been amazed at his positive attitude and it also is a reflection of how wonderful our children’s leaders are too!
The biggest achievement for Nathanael this month has been walking with his push along walker. It honestly is the cutest thing you have ever seen, his beaming smile says it all! Up until he runs into a wall that is, as of yet Nathanael has not mastered the art of turning corners!

As ever Nathanael you have brightened up our days to no end. I can’t believe you are turning One next month!

And just to prove that his monthly photos are getting even harder to take now the boy is so active, here is a monthly bonus photo! After all he is too cute not too.

The Message in all the Mess

I am so excited for today’s post! My beautiful friend Rachel asked whether I would share a post over on her blog Mum on a Mission. Well you know I had to have her share over here! For a start my blog filled with random little things of life is nothing compared to the inspiration, encouragement and wise words from my lovely friend. In the short time I have known her she has encouraged and inspired me to be greater than myself, to put my trust in God and step out in faith. If you need a friend to get along side you she is the person you need to go to! Hop on over to her blog and catch up with her posts some of my favourites have been Keeping Up With The Neighbours, Roots _ Staying Focused Brings Better Results,Things Learnt From My Toddler, Dormant But Not Extinct, Be Honest With Yourself – My Brush with PND

Hi Kiri’s Readers!
I am really excited to be able to write this post and to share a little bit with you about who I am and what the Lord has laid on my heart for this life here.  Firstly, just like Kiri, I am a mum to lovely little boy (we will not have a fight about which is cuter as both of them are adorable!) and am navigating through this maze of challenges that is motherhood.  But more importantly than that, I am a child of God and He has given me a mission throughout this time, to not just use motherhood as an excuse but to use it as an opportunity to reach the unique set of people that I have access to as a mum.  So hence the title of my blog – Mum on a Mission.

Rachel and Sam

I am not sure about you, but becoming a mum has definitely been one of the most life-changing things to happen to me (and if you are not yet a mum, believe me it is a HUGE change!).  Endless sleepless nights, grumpy babies and singing nursery rhymes over and over again can make us yearn for our own selfish little worlds where we can sleep and not hear crying anymore.  But I really believe that there is a message in all the mess of having children and that God uses this period in your life to teach you so much about his own character.

God is our father, and I think that all the other attributes of God stem out of this fact.  He created the world because he wanted something for his children to enjoy, and through becoming a parent I can better understand the character of God as a father.  Every day, through the actions of my son and how my feelings towards him grow and change, I learn new things about how God feels about me.

“Yet for us there is one God, the Father, from whom are all things and for whom we exist, and one Lord, Jesus Christ, through whom are all things and through whom we exist.” 1 Cor 8:6

One particular message that God has been telling me about his character really has come out of the mess.  I like to think I am reasonably laid back and not too bothered about mess, but on the other hand I have a chores rota on my blackboard for cleaning and the second I see crumbs on the kitchen floor I get a bit twitchy until the broom comes out!  So clearly having a messy one year old is sometimes a joy and sometimes a challenge.

Most of the time I am happy for him to play and enjoy himself by exploring his surroundings and his toys, but there comes a point when I can no longer see the lounge floor and it takes over me – I just have to tidy it all up!  Sam then sees that as an excellent opportunity to restart the whole process.  I am sure that this is sometimes how God feels about me – that he has to constantly re-set things and keep forgiving me for the same messes that I get myself into.  I wish (and pray) that I could have the patience with my son that God has with me, and I wish even more that I could have the same love and patience to show to others in the world that need to know this love and forgiveness.

Finally, I hope that I will keep seeing the message that is in the mess (whatever mess that might be) rather than just the mess itself…

 

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Empties Part One

Hey Lovelies,

You may remember if your an avid reader here at Wonderfully Random, that I have set about the task of using up all my beauty/bath products. You can catch up with your reading here. So welcome to my progress aka what is going in my recycle bin once I have completed this post.

Empties

2 Impulse Body Sprays in the scent True Love
2 Bioderma Sensibio H2O – my favourite makeup remover of choice
1 Loreal Skin Perfection 3 in 1 Purifying Micellar Solution
Sample of Dermalogica Soothing Eye makeup remover
Sample of Kat Von D Unlock It Make Up Remover Wipes
Sample of Dior Addict It Lash mascara – If I wasn’t on a spending ban I would go out and purchase this I really liked this mascara.
Simply Sensitive Eye Make Up Removal Pads
Laura Mercier Body Butter in Fresh Fig – Oh my word I love this scent  (hint hint for Christmas Presents pretty please)
Elemis Sensitive Cleansing Wash
Clarins Instant Eye Make Up Remover – I know this is raved about and I did really enjoy it for a time, however I don’t like the oily residue it leaves on the skin and have found other favourites.
Bumble and Bumble Thickening Hairspray – Absolutely love this thickening spray, it really helped after my post partum hair loss and I would repurchase this in a second.
Soap & Glory Kick Ass Concealer in the shade light – Have to be honest I haven’t used up Step 2 as this is far too dark concealer for my skin tone but the corrector is perfect for dark circles and the powder is divine.
Sample of Bioderma Anti Redness Cream – With my sensitive skin this cleared up the troublesome red patches I seem to get around my nose loved this and would definitely repurchase.
Nails Inc Vitamin E Oil Pen – What can I say gets the job done and has a lovely scent to it
Sleek Eye Brow Pencil I put this in my June favourites and really like the product, however this dried out quite quickly and needs to be thrown.
English Laundry by Christopher Wicks – I got this sample in a Birchbox and loved this fragrance so much, I would love the full size
Collection 2000 Illuminating Touch Light Diffusing Concealer
Bare Minerals Lash Domination
Make up Forever Smoky Extravagant mascara
Tarte Lights, Camera Lashes – out of all the mascaras listed this was by far my favourite of the bunch.
Max Factor Clump Defy Mascara
Blink Mascara.

So as you can see I have used up a considerable amount of products and I am looking forward to finishing the rest of my stash, so I can repurchase some of my favourites.

Blogging Through The Bible–Genesis Chapter 2 and 3

So, we find ourselves this month reading Genesis, I have to say if there was one book in the bible I have read and re read it must be Genesis simply because most year through the bible plans start here, so pleased Courtney chose something different.

GMG bible
I listened to a preach by Pastor Jimmy Evans which was actually based on the relationship of Covenant in relation to Jeremiah. However in this preach he references back to some interesting things in Genesis that really expands my view of the first chapters in the Bible.

In the opening chapters we see the first Covenant ever made, the covenant of marriage. It means to cut, unlike a contract which protects our interests and diminishes our responsibilities, covenant is all about sacrifice and assuming responsibilities. We learn from Paul in Ephesians that God instituted the marriage covenant first  as it is the closest thing we have to compare to our relationship with Him.

Pastor Evans points our something that I had never noticed before in relation to identity in marriage. I must have lost this in quick reading of these opening chapters, where you become so familiar with the creation story that you don’t actually study what it says.

When God creates Eve, and Adam finally meets her he says “At last! This is bone from my bones and flesh from my flesh. She is to be called Woman (Adamah) because she was take out of Man (Adam)” Chapter 2 Verse 23

Right lets get our translation head on here, Adam in Hebrew is our word for Man.  So if we are being pedantic Adam didn’t actually have a name he was just known as Man. The word for Woman is Adamah so it makes sense that she was called that because she was taken out of man.

Lets hang on a second here we all know the first woman ever created was called Eve, well yes and no. You see to God she was always known as Woman/Adamah so close was her identity woven into Adam in their marriage covenant that they were to become one, they shared one identity. God called them Adam.

So how did she end up with the name Eve? I don’t have a high regard for Adam I find him to be a spoilt brat really  3:12 sums it up for me when he tries to blame God for his actions. It wasn’t my fault I sinned God you put me here with that Woman!

Well God rules justly and punishes Woman and also Man, and here we see Adam giving Woman the name Eve after God punishes Adam, the next sentence out of Adam’s mouth no doubt in anger was in v20

The man called his wife Havah (life) because she was mother of all the living”

As God didn’t take woman away, Adam separates his identity away from his wife, and renames her. This was never to be the case in this relationship and I think it can help us a huge amount in our own marriages today.

The first year of marriage is wonderful but also challenging – Why? Because it is two people coming together to form one identity, to build a life together. I also think through the years that when disagreements arise it can be brought back to this main issue of Identity, of oneness. Perhaps you don’t want to take responsibility for your husband’s decision? Perhaps it would be easier to be separate in social situations? Perhaps he has made a choice that you said you disagreed with at the time but he makes it anyway – you don’t want take that joint accountability, you want to remind him that it was HIM that made that decision not US.

Its a tough lesson for us all in marriage and one to continually work through but if we recognise that we are naturally inclined to be an individual rather than to have our identity as One, then I think we can really grow and build healthy marriages.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments below on the first few chapters of Genesis! What stood out to you?

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