I have recently finished Melissa Michaels new book Love The Home You Have and thought I would share some of my random thoughts with you!
It appears that every American lifestyle blogger and YouTuber are either following this book or Marie Kondo at the minute, but I do wonder whether the average person in the UK would have discovered The Inspired Room blog and Melissa’s marvellous book.
When it comes to homes the Americans and the Brits get lost in translation for example,when my Dad told me that his soon to be American in laws lived in a “ranch” I was picturing John Wayne not a bungalow.
I also think most English people would love the space of a completed basement underneath the house and all that space, lets confess we have envied those Pinterest playrooms, or is that just me? Our basements, if you do have one they are cellars, damp, dingy and from the Victorian era, playroom they are not, cinema room? no way!
I share this because I presumed I would have to overlook a lot of Melissa’s book because it just wouldn’t be applicable to my detached English home. I really want to encourage you that Love the Home you Have, doesn’t talk about the construction of your home, rather our attitudes towards it as well as our life in general.
Although the book doesn’t give you bible references, you can’t help but enjoy and gain wisdom from Melissa’s rich faith on every page, which was definitely one of the reasons why I bought the book.
Melissa takes you through her various homes that her family has lived in, explaining some of the things she loved about each place as well as being candid in some of the problems each house had too.
You get a behind the scene glance in one chapter as to what it would be like if Better Home and Gardens decided to photograph your home, as well as wisdom on organisation and routines of your home.
Love the Home You Have really encouraged me for the season that my family is in right now, as I have explained in other posts we moved into our home when Nathanael was 6 weeks old, I was recovering from a C-Section and oh yes it was 4 days before Christmas!
In our first home I gave us grace for the time we were in – newlyweds, little disposable income, and an Edwardian house that obviously needed work.
For our current home, lured with only 10 years worth of wear, I overlooked the crazy colours the previous owners had painted everywhere, the dog stained carpets, and the fact that all of our furniture seemed quite small in our 19 foot Living Room. I forgot that it had taken 3 years for our old house to feel like “home.”
Our Home is just as much of a project as was the old one, just in a different package, the only difference is now we have our wonderful son Nathanael to factor his needs in too.
I also assumed that as I would be staying at home, I would have ample opportunity to “keep house” and no speck of dust would remain – how wrong was I.
Melissa explains a similar scenario when her children were younger, her house a mess, dishes in the sink, rubbish overflowing and still in pyjama’s her neighbour knocks on her door …
“Obviously I didn’t give my neighbour a warm invitation to come in, but I regret even more that I didn’t give myself grace for the life season I was in. Double fail. I was a new mom with small children.”
That gem transcends home making, organisation, lifestyle wants or needs. Those words leapt out of the page, you see I like Melissa and as I know so many other Mother’s around me don’t give ourselves grace for the season.
Whether that be keeping my home or my spiritual walk I tell myself I should be doing better, this attitude keeps us in bondage as we feel we aren’t good enough or we are missing the mark. It’s simply a lie.
Love the Home You Have is more than a “how to manual” it ministered to my soul as I place value on my role as home maker and the joy the haven our home brings to our family.
Melissa has also added a 31 day challenge to the book also, so I hope that as I complete some challenges I will be able to share those with you as I go along.
Let me know in the comments below if you have read the book and your thoughts too!